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Sister act: A Muslim woman at prayer (AFP/Getty Images)

Following 9/11, the number of people converting to Islam began to rise. In the US it is estimated that approximately 30,000 convert annually. There are about 2.4 million Muslims in Britain and studies suggest there are between 10,000 and 14,000 white converts among them. It is estimated that 75 per cent are female.

As a feminist who rejects religion on the grounds that it promotes inequality between men and women, I wanted to try to understand why so many women are attracted to Islam. Its messages are clear about a woman's role. She will be subservient to her husband and devote her life to pleasing him and raising his children. "If a man calls his wife to his bed, and she refuses, and he goes to sleep angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning," is a popular phrase recited to Muslim women during religious study. 

"The true Muslim woman is always keen to win her husband's love and to please him. Nothing should spoil his happiness or enjoyment of life," says the Sisters' section of Muslimconverts.com. The website also has a section on how the Taliban upheld certain rights of women that are "non-existent in the West". 

Saskia converted to Islam 15 years ago during her first year at university. "I did so because I married a Muslim. I can't imagine why women would do it for other reasons." But prior to meeting her future husband, Saskia had begun to engage with Islam. "The Bible can be vague about the roles of men and women and I wanted certainty. Islam gave me that." She was brought up by an atheist father and a "pushy feminist" mother who occasionally attended church. "Although they had quite a traditional marriage, my mother made it clear that the only options for her daughter's future, as far as she was concerned, were an education and a career. I rebelled."

Soon after starting at university, Saskia began attending its Islamic Society through which she met Muayid, a Moroccan Muslim. "I was attracted to the conservative family values and the high esteem in which mothers are held." Dropping out of university, Saskia married Muayid and had two children within the first three years. But she was unhappy. "Marriage to Muayid was very hard. I wanted to be a good Muslim but he hardly prayed and almost never went to mosque." Saskia became increasingly devout and as a result tension built up in the relationship. The children would be taken to mosque every day to learn Arabic but Muayid was uninterested in their education. "He didn't even work, even though the Koran makes it clear that a man has to provide for his wife."

The fact that Muayid's family lived in Morocco meant that there was no pressure on him to change his ways. "The mother reigns supreme in Islam and even grown men have to respect and obey them," says Saskia. "If I needed Muayid to listen to me I would ask my mother to talk to him, which sometimes worked."

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Luke Ahead
May 18th, 2010
5:05 PM
I can understand why males convert to Islam but I am puzzled with western women converting to Islam. It is natural to seek some sort of identity in this crazy world but it is unnatural to give up your freedom and seek subjugation voluntarily. Look at the case of Ayaan Hirsi Ali - it's easier to join Islam than to leave. Regards

Anonymous
May 17th, 2010
10:05 PM
This piece is so shallow. As unmarried Muslim male, the relation between me, my sisters and my mother is not in any way demonstrated by what in the article. We are a family, not enemies to each other, as this article is trying to portray. This article is so out of touch with reality. I will give just one example, a man who beats his wife is looked at as a coward in my culture.

LKJ
May 17th, 2010
10:05 PM
My conversion was intellectually driven. At one time I was a devout Christian, and I even attended seminary with the intention of becoming a Lutheran minister. I had too many questions, however, and my professors didn't have the answers. I left the seminary and started reading. When I picked up the Qur'an, I was looking for the mistakes. Instead, I found a beautiful book that had to have been inspired because no man could have written it. I've been a Muslim for nearly 30 years. My husband has always treated me well and we've taught our sons to be kind to their future wives. All of my sons know how to clean and cook and even bake. There is nothing repressive about the way we live as Muslims. It's true that some Muslim men are domineering and even violent. That is the fault of the man, though, and not the religion.

Anonymous
May 2nd, 2010
6:05 AM
Some people like things strict and puritanical and a lot will come from religous families whose church has become too soft and wishy-washy for them. The non-religous version of women like this become PC kommisars or radical feminists.

TRH
May 1st, 2010
4:05 PM
Subservience, for many, is a richer and more interesting experience than authority.

Lulu
May 1st, 2010
3:05 PM
What a biased article. The fact that you refuse to include anything but negitive stories is very bad journalism. There are unhappy women from all walks of life, including many feminists.

HarveyX
April 30th, 2010
1:04 PM
Low self-worth. Also, Western feminism has neutered the Western man; we can't bring ourselves to be strict towards women like a muslim man can. Which is no bad thing but some women still seek a "strong hand" to guide them through life's little trials and tribulations and like being told what to do, when and how. Islam means subjugation, some women just like being subjugated by muslim men.

Astrid
April 29th, 2010
10:04 AM
The triumph of ignorance !

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