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The couple divorced five years ago after ten years of marriage. "He really changed after 9/11. All of a sudden, he stopped drinking alcohol and began to pray and attend mosque. He would endlessly talk about the Zionist conspiracy and how Zionists rule the world. I found tapes and books that just fed his paranoia about Jews. I disliked the radical Muayid more than I did the non-devout one."

What is the attraction of Islam for Saskia today? "Women are respected and not seen as sex objects. Western women are defined by their appearance but we are viewed as whole human beings. I find the veil liberating." Saskia tells me she gets "particularly mad" when white men tell Muslim women they should not cover up. "In whose interests are they arguing?"

On gender segregation, she says: "I think it is good for Islamic women. Western women are often rivals but Muslim women have a much stronger sense of sisterhood."

Rahila Gupta is a writer and member of Women against Fundamentalism, set up in the 1980s in response to the Salman Rushdie affair. She believes that dissatisfaction with consumerism and the perceived moral decadence of the West has sometimes pushed people into a search for religious or spiritual transcendence. However, she does not think that white women converting to Islam is the start of a new trend. "Islam is superficially attractive in that it offers an analysis [and condemnation] of the abuse of women's bodies to sell products but once you look deeper, as with most religions, it is women who are blamed for men's predatory behaviour and who must cover themselves for protection. "

Inequality between men and women exists in Christian, Jewish and Muslim communities but perceptions of female sexuality differ considerably within those religions. The Islamic view of women as active sexual beings who are encouraged to enjoy sex with their husbands is uncomfortable for the traditional Muslim man, and therefore stricter control of women is seen as necessary. 

Islam's obsession with virginity and childbirth has led to gender segregation and early marriage. In Muslim countries, Western feminism is seen as irrelevant and part of the wider process of colonisation. I attended a Saturday afternoon meeting of the New Muslim Sisters at the notorious East London Mosque. Last year, the venue was criticised for hosting a pre-recorded talk by Anwar al-Awlaki, the radical cleric based in Yemen whom US officials claim acted as a spiritual leader for three of the 9/ 11 hijackers. The room is packed with women and their children. We sit in a circle and introduce ourselves. I am the only one with an uncovered head. I explain that I am researching a piece for a magazine on women who convert. No one is uncomfortable with me being there and the room is vibrating with warmth and friendliness. There are women from Tanzania, Australia, France and the UK, a number of black and mixed-race Londoners and two Anglo-Asians born into Sikh families. There are also Muslim-born women who say they are "reclaiming" their religion, having been brought up by fairly secular parents. The group leader tells me I should use the term "revert not convert. All people were Muslim once so we are just reverting to our natural state."

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Anonymous
November 20th, 2013
3:11 PM
the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

Anonymous
October 8th, 2013
12:10 AM
People should understand that individual muslim's acts do not always portray islam... as with christians.. hitler was a christian... do we blame christianity for his acts? highly biased article!

Farkhondeh
September 26th, 2013
8:09 AM
If you study the Islamic history, you will find stories of Men and women who were living at the same time with the prophet Mohammad" peace up on him" who hurt and bothered the prophet while they were muslims and non muslims. The prophet showed them how they could behave for themselves, their families or for others. His respect and love to all specially children and women, the poor and slaves, the Black and white and...is a real view of what Quran is teaching the human being. We, men/women, should follow Mohammad's "P..." manner in our lives to reach to the peak of rationality, morality and humanity.

Zuezz
July 3rd, 2013
12:07 PM
From the picture at the beginning of the right-up, I know its gonna be biased! The picture pictured somewhat unhappy covered woman, which try to portray that's how Muslim women are. Not minding to ask whether that's how Islam made it compulsory for the women. In the first place, covering of women's body is only in the presence of men who are not are close relations! And the Niqab/burqa (the picture) above is never compulsory in Islam.

Anonymous
April 21st, 2013
6:04 AM
So you think Muhammed (in the final story) acted upon the teachings of Islam? Absolutely not!. And so do many others who do stuff totally out of the fold of Islam and claim it to be affliated to the religion. Your final comment ".. choose a lifestyle that brings subjugated existence" makes me laugh out loud! I am a Muslim woman and the hijab has undoubtedly liberated me. And yes it was never forced over me and I choose to adopt it.

Anonymous
April 4th, 2013
2:04 PM
Interesting article which I think chooses to focus on people who are fundamental or are perhaps not able to explain in secular or articulate ways about why they converted. Why did I convert? I realised that many Western people are hostile to Islam and by default turn to Christianity, which in it's 2000 year history has been more oppressive towards minorities, women and slaves than any religion. Women are only human and Islam recognises this. It does not, as the article says, expect them to cover themselves head to toe. Even the face veil is not compulsory, but to cover the hair; a feminine aspect of beauty is compulsory. This is to protect their modesty and safeguard them from men's evil No, they are not blamed for their gender. The author also mentions 'Islams obsession with virginity'. I don't know where this misnomer has arisen. Muhammed himself married widows and divorcees. I doubt they were virgin at the age of 40 or more. Another quote: "Violence and abuse are allowed, even expected, because under Islam the man's word is law." is completely wrong. Many early muslims were soldiers and the Arabs had a warrior culture. Where has Muhammed allowed the hitting of women. On the contrary he was extremely kind and affectionate to his wives and his daughter. The author has chosen to concentrate on convertees alone, without doing primary research on Islamic texts or talking to proper Muslim leaders. The mosque attended is known for "extreme" views and the author should have done a variety of research. "Awlaki" mentioned in the article talks in his speeches about how women should play a greater role in society and how in the beginning of Islam women did play an important role and had freedom and he criticised conservative muslims of today for being to strict and conservative. Awlaki, touted in the West was an extremist, and his moderate views are not expounded in the article at all!

Anonymous
February 11th, 2013
12:02 PM
This is a very interesting article, including all the comments, I have had many questions to answer. Is it biased ? I think it just reflects experiences. In my experience I have seen my ex be used for passport and money reasons, as said by another commenter - how can these women be so dumb ? My ex grew up in a Northern UK town, and had seen the demographic change vastly during her life, out of interest she started to read about Islam to understand what this 'under culture' - was. She moved away ending up in London where she met myself, after a 7 month relationship together, she was introduced (by her Muslim Boss) to a man several years younger and an Illegal immigrant. My ex was a lady with low self esteem, so a man offering eastern promise - away from our rocky relationship (she was a difficult and stubborn woman) seemed like the better bet and off she skipped, citing a number of excuses - personally I think she just fell for him - even before we had split. That was 2 1/2 years ago, I have since moved on and got over things. This Christmas she started emailing me, and wanted to see me. A covert meeting was arranged, and I was truly shocked to find out she had converted to Islam and had married this man, he has since now been naturalised and been given a passport. She has also lent him a five figure sum so he can start a business. She tells me she is not very happy, and is quite isolated and restricted, she spends a great deal of time on her own in their flat, almost under curfew. They argue a great deal, in fact she feels quite threatened ... she said she would fear for her life if her husband found out we had met. Knowing her degree of stubbornness, I can only imagine at the tension within this type of relationship - she is now strongly of the opinion our two cultures should not mix like this. She says she wants to get back together again, but I am not sure ... she could just be putting out feelers. But I do know she looks unhappy and wants out, but she feels quite threatened, quoting terms like 'respect' and 'honour' ... and appears just stuck, living a thoroughly grey miserable and oppressed life. She is a reasonably well read lady - surely she should have realised that their maybe an opportunity for her to end up as she has - but blind by love she was ... and maybe that is why 75% of UK converts are women - driven by emotion not logic.

Anonymous
January 16th, 2013
12:01 AM
Attention is one reason why Western persons are converting to Islam. At the moment, Islam and more particularly Islamism is controversial. If you are having difficulty coping with what is going on in your life, ie. Western life, converting to a religion that is criticised within your culture for its infringement of human/civil rights (of followers and non-adherents) is an act of rebellion, by putting two-fingers up to the society perceived as the cause of your issues, and a cry for attention. The attention is being sought both from Muslims, who embrace the opportunity to advocate for their faith; as well as attention from the culture/faith being rejected by aligning with Islam, ironically feeling safe that Western political correctness and freedoms of religion/speech and anti-discrimination laws will protect your choice! I can't give you stats, but having dealt with some ardent Western converts, most did it for the context of marriage, and then felt they had to mount a defence of the sexism and inequality in Islam by appearing to embrace it wholeheartedly and being apologist about it, as the tenents espoused conflicted so much with their current civil rights and equal opportnity laws. They weren't converting spontaneously outside of marriage. There was an element of compulsion from their spouses who didn't want to be seen to have a wife independent or more accurately, disobedient enough, NOT to convert. Although Muslims can have a Christian wife, husbands are apostates to be put to death if they leave Islam and they also are under religious/cultural pressure to have children raised as Muslims, and eventually have full custody under Sharia law. Mothers may never be given access in Muslim countries with Sharia law. Even in countries without Sharia, custody beyond childhood (ie teenage years) is unlikely to be given to a non-Muslim. Three converts (two within marriages) were former drug/alcohol addicts who liked the structure and again, the sense of power from doing something shocking and controversial, within the protection of Western laws. In France for example, the vast majority of conversion occurs in prison where Muslims are greatly over-represented amongst inmates. To me this seems an act of rebellion from people having difficulty coping with their lives and seeking structure or attention. To become MORE Christian, within the prevailing Judeo-Christian-Secular culture of the West, which encourages individualism and thinking for oneself about moral issues (ie. less structure/tenents), doesn't attract the same attention.

sally
September 7th, 2012
9:09 PM
No one in the article had a good relationship with muslim men but somehow seperated the fact with fiction saying things like 'Islam gives a woman respect' Clearly that is not true. the man beating his wife when she was pregnant, the man unwilling to get a job are all quite typical examples. Why the hell women behave so dumb is beyond belief.

Danni
August 5th, 2012
2:08 PM
When Women read The Bible & The Quran and they see Quran says "womans giving birth of a child is a blessing from Allah & every child is equal to Allah that born innocent they love it from the bottom of their hearts" On the otherhand when they read Bible says "Women give birth of a child between Curse & Sin and a birth of a daughter [foolish] is a loss to her father (while an ill taught son is only a confusion not any loss) they realize that which book was inscribed from God. Furthermore Jesus never said he was God or never commanded to Worship him, rather said The Father is greater than I & The Father is greater than All.

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