But those [wives] from whom you feararrogance — [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally] strike them.
The verse seems unambiguous. But the fact that a husband was enjoined to strike an “arrogant” wife occasioned discomfort; medieval commentators squirm when they come to the verse. The great early exegete al-Tabari, who died in 923 and whose huge commentary assimilates many earlier authorities, searched for a bit of wiggle room. If you must resort to beating your wife, he says, don’t break her bones; in fact, it’s quite permissible to beat her with “a toothpick”. Al-Tabari can’t contravene the text, but he can soften it. Two centuries later, al-Zamakhshari, another Sunni exegete, would warn husbands not to use “violent force”, nor to strike a wife in the face, and he quoted a saying attributed to the Prophet: “Hang your whip where your household may see it.” This sounds harsh, but the whip is displayed as a deterrent; the threat of force, rather than force itself, suffices.
For the commentators, the problem with this passage wasn’t so much the permissibility of wife-beating (though that troubled them), but the fact that the injunction ran counter to the example of the Prophet. Since Muhammad himself never struck his wives, and, in fact, disapproved of such measures, the Koran here seems to be at odds with prophetic tradition, that normative behaviour known as the Sunnah (literally “custom”, but, by extension, the personal comportment of the Prophet, which all Muslims should imitate). The solution the commentators adopted was to uphold the revealed text while mitigating its application. Khalidi is, of course, aware of this; he smuggles the commentators’ qualms into his own version, which reads: “And those you fear may rebel, admonish, and abandon them in their beds, and smack them.” That smack is the sort of light touch, as it were, which respects the text while playfully modifying it. Tabari would have applauded.


















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