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I became aware of how cruel children can be to one another in fiction before I encountered it again in life, but in the late 1960s I went to write a book in a remote Dorset cottage. Two boys aged 11-the farmer's grandson and a friend, came by most days and if they took the left-hand track were hidden from my cottage garden by a high hedge. It was a beautiful summer and I was often working at a table in the garden. I heard what they were saying to one another. Sometimes, it was innocent back-chat between them but then I detected an unpleasant tone in the voice of one boy. It took me little time to realise that he was a nasty, spiteful, unkind, mean, cruel child bullying his "friend" with threats and frightening stories. To my horror, I then learned that they were going to boarding school together the following autumn. What could I do or say? I remembered Michael so clearly and wanted to save this poor boy-who was small, thinner, fairer and very vulnerable-looking-from his thug of a companion. I waited until they went by the cottage one day and when I overheard something nasty, shouted out loudly. The boys fell silent. They did not take that track again and when I met the bully in the lane, he stared me out. 

I asked the adults if the boys got on all right together-how could I phrase it more strongly? They laughed and said they were "the best of chums". The sound of their hearty, confident voices, the obtuseness of their reply, was so chilling that I could not get it out of my mind and the next day I made a few notes about parents and other adults who know absolutely nothing about their children and their lives, who cannot see what is happening and will never be told. I knew that if the bullied child had ever said a word his father would simply have laughed at him. 

The boys left and my notes became a novel, I'm the King of the Castle, which I wrote very quickly during what was left of that summer. It is based on the two young boys I had seen and heard on the farm, the cruelty of one, the misery of the other, and the obtuseness and selfishness of their parents. Forty years later, it is a set book for GCSE and is taught in many schools. It was not written for young people but they are the ones who respond to it best because although teenagers in 21st-century comprehensives are very different from prep school boys in the Sixties, the behaviour, the subject matter-the inner misery and fear, the cruelty and the need to stay silent, let alone the incomprehension of adults, are completely familiar to the young now, as then. I have occasionally visited school classes in which 14-year-olds are discussing the book-neither I nor the teacher needs to say anything, the pupils speak, argue and debate the issues among themselves. It is very gratifying to hear them and to know the novel strikes such a chord. 

But some parents, over the lifetime of the book, have objected both to the theme, and more, to the ending in which the bullied boy commits suicide. I have had letters telling me categorically that "of course this never happens". But it does. It has gone on happening from time to time over the 40-odd years since I wrote the novel. It happened again recently, when a young girl killed herself because she could take no more cruelty and unkindness-or "cyber bullying", an especially nasty form of it, which was unheard of when I wrote my book.

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Pete Wallbridge
August 29th, 2013
3:08 AM
In thirty years of teaching I found that a lot of bullying came from teachers, &, of course, in the days of corporal punishment bullying was reinforced. However,bullying did not (& does not) exist only in schools & the home. I found it rife in the armed forces & also offices in which I worked.

burkard@tiscali...
December 25th, 2012
2:12 PM
Arnold Ward is right. I grew up in the US in the fifties, and was a right old wimp--a first-class target for bullying. But grown-ups were totally in control, and bullying was rare. The closest I ever got to being tormented was once a couple of boys a year older than I chased me on the way home from school. They caught me--but once they saw that I was blubbing, they just laughed and let me go. Bullies naturally step in where there is a vacuum of authority, and in far too many of our schools teachers have very little authority. A survey conducted for the National Union of Teachers by Warwick University found the 5 out of 6 teachers (this includes primary schools and schools in the leafy suburbs) have to deal with threats of pupil-pupil violence. Modern 'behaviour management' theory treats misbehaviour as technocratic rather than a moral problem. Every Child Matters, which is part of an international initiative to empower children, supposedly emphasises 'staying safe'. But in reality, it has the opposite effect: by legitimising children's whims, our educators are eroding the moral foundations of society.

Arnold Ward
December 9th, 2012
10:12 AM
I went to school 40 years ago both in England and abroad, the bullying was worse in England because the adults didn't intervene, whereas at my school abroad bullies were quickly spotted and dealt with. Its something to do with British culture.

Ruth Loshak
December 1st, 2012
12:12 PM
'Arming' all children with ways of dealing with bullying would help. Through role play, improvisation, visualisation - have children explore 'imaginary' situations and act them out, discuss options of how to behave and what to do, rehearse statements and appropriate body language. But of course there are situations, as with Michael in Susan Hill's account, where the power imbalance makes it hard for the victim of unkind behaviour to carry out such strategies, or to tell an adult or friend - as we have all seen so clearly from the Savile case. If children knew from the experience of others that telling an adult about being bullied would be safe, they would be less intimidated. That is why it is so important to speak out about these issues, constantly, not just when the worst cases arise.

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